To: K-list
Recieved: 2003/03/02 03:11
Subject: RE: [K-list] Partners
From: Rich
On 2003/03/02 03:11, Rich posted thus to the K-list:
Dear Charles,
Thank you so much for bringing this up... I relate very well to what you
say.... In fact I jumped on this post.. Sorry.. You helped me to say
something that I wanted to for a while. Hey, isn't that what you did before
with the BDSM discussion!
My own experience of relationships with K has been very difficult.
Everything seemingly getting magnified to ridiculous proportions and the
other not being deal with the energy or closeness. Trying to keep K out of
the relationship is not easy for me as it tends to meld together with the
other and I, there stuff and my stuff. No boundaries. However, that said I
am getting more weary to this and not extending myself out to the other. But
makes for a pretty boring relationship.
> But I know I can have that effect on people without even saying anything.
> Just being with me gave her the opportunity to see beyond the illusion she
> normally lives in, if only briefly and she didn't like it.
Yes... In my experience people cling to their illusion. Scary to wake up
quickly. There are exceptions.
In my last relationship I was convinced that goddess brought us together but
the events were very rocky. One thing I regretted was sending energy into
her. I did it out of ego (only on one occasion) and thinking it would be
fun. It was a stupid thing as I violated myself and her. For the most part I
followed what my heart would say, which was mostly get rid of her but as
soon as I did it started saying get back with her... Crazy heart logic!
> I would be interested to hear how many others on the K list can relate to
> this dilemma. Is a successful romantic union only possible with someone
> walking the same stretch of path as ourselves.
Is anyone really walking the same path? Being accepting to the others
differences maybe an alternative?
> Obviously we all have
> different identities and I'm not so idealistic to think that there is a
> female 'me' out there waiting for the perfect union, but it would be nice
> to
> think there's a good chance of meeting someone of like mind to share this
> life with.
Would Goddess help you? I asked and received. In fact the girl I met was so
close to what I wrote down on my goals list it surprised me. However I
didn't consider what 'past' she might come with. Too superficial!
> It seems the only place I find like minded conversation is here
> on
> this list and around my professional courses. I do have plenty of friends
> but
> most don't have any idea about K, meditation, karma, healing, Unity,
> duality,
> etc, etc.
I enjoy the discussion on the list too... I'd love to have an open chat room
if there was enough interest so people could just drop in and chat as they
feel.
> And if anyone out there did find a compatible relationship, how did it
> happen. Are Kundalites eventually and energetically drawn to other
> Kundalites?
I wonder if we are drawn to not have a relationship (in the normal human
sense)... I don't like the prospect... I enjoy companionship, but it seems
like to get close to someone also means wading through their issues until
they are close enough to meet you with the same level of intimacy.
Many thanks for opening the door to talk about this.
With Love,
Rich
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