To: K-list
Recieved: 2002/09/04 12:31
Subject: [K-list] interim results: Relationship poll
From: Druout
On 2002/09/04 12:31, Druout posted thus to the K-list:
Dear List,
Fifteen people have so far responded to the relationship poll. One person
spoke from the point of view of having a relationship with an awakened
mother.
What is clear is that K awakening affects relationships strongly, for better
or for worse! Nearly everyone (12 people) said K awakening affected close
relationships. Two said not too much or mostly no, One said that it affected
post k relationships but not pre K ones.
Overall, there were 5 negative, 4 positive and 6 more or less neutral effects
of K on relationships. A couple of people said they lost them all.
Most of the negatives had positive end results, however:
"but my journey is very mystical in nature- it's
time for me to go it alone-"
"Anguish, heartbreak and un-requited love. Humility. But I have no doubt
that i'm better for the experience. If you hadn't been where you've been
you couldn't be where you are."
"I walk my own path with gratitude for what I am going through.
No distraction no judgement from others. This is between God and
me."
"If you have the faith to allow it to lead you, you can actually
end up happier then you have ever been before!!!!!!!!!!!"
Some comments to the first question:
Not as much as I suspected. I still get the "Oh, yeah, OK go ahead,
whatever" attitude from time to time. But in spite of my significant other
not being the slightest bit interested in waking herself, she seems to
tolerate mine fairly well.
My parents think I'm nuts, but they love me anyway and just chalk it up to
family eccentricity
Yes, it has intensified my relationship. While K-energy was active, the
energy in our relationship was very high and sex was ecstatic. My energy
would raise my partners energy.
I was in a 12 year marriage when my "K" started raging out of nowhere. It
was so intense....but it took me to the place where I stopped to have a look
at the relationship. Turns out, it sucked and I didn't even know it.
Not that I had that many, but I lost them all.
the k's have absolutely affected my relationships- i fought it for seven
years- and finally left my husband & beautiful daughter . God gave me back
my daughter- she has lived with me for the past two years, but she is moving
back with her father so she can attend a better school district. she's 16-
she tells me on the phone , now, that she loves me- a breakthru
At times it does but overall no. The only bad effects are when the energy is
really intense and I cant function for a few days cuz of all the stuff coming
up. The rest of the time hubby is very supportive. When it is bad he has to
take care of me and kids so it makes him stressed and he thinks I am letting
the energy do it, he doesnt understand why I cant make it stop.
man, oh man, oh man. All of us could write a sermon on this...
Yes it has. My close relationship(s) has(Have) been my greatest lesson in
this path.
Poorly to ignored. My wife's perception of spirituality didn't mesh with what
I was going through; she wasn't ready to be as open as one needs to be to
even understand why/how I was processing this stuff. She's just not there.
Yes it has, deeply. Perception and understanding is not easy,
as if I talked about sureal stuff !!!!! Communications is quite weird......
Lots of changes within, still flowing.... LOL
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To the question how have (others) reacted to your awakening,
3 said negatively or mostly negatively
5 Neutral or neutral/positive
3 positively
2 puzzled or confused and resistant to understanding
Comments:
My partner has reacted positively to it, even supported me where I was
scared of my own experiences, like when I was getting so many past-life
memories. He instinctively knew they where real and took them as they came.
This helped me tremendously to be able to deal with what was happening.
most have reacted negatively- i felt alone and abandon
I told one friend about it and he didn't have a
clue as to what I was talking about.
Family doesn't recognize it or see it. They have always thought I was a bit
on the strange side and of my own mind.
I would say, confusing and resistance to understand
what they have not experienced. LOL
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Some of the comments to the questions "How have you responded?" and "have you
ended up solving the problems"
As K has done its psychological roto-rootering, I
find it impossible to stay very long in those places that used to ignite
repetitive, issue-based conflict. There just isn't very much "me" to defend
anymore. If I do flare up, I take this as a sign that I have work to do.
Occasionally I have a tremendous need solitude and silence. My husband is
respectful and understanding. I know how lucky I am! It is perhaps relevant
that my husband and I met when well into middle age.
*******
I talk about it with the neutrals from time to time, hitting the high points
so to speak. I try not to go into too many details, it makes them stand on
one foot and look intensely at the ivy.
When I talk about it, I try to talk about it from the point of view of how it
affects me in a positive way. My family has been good to me so I don't want
to alienate them. I'm sure the time will come one for "full disclosure"
Now, in-laws......thats another matter
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I started talking about the things that were happening to me and stopped
feeling insecure about what happened.
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Some years ago someone in my country wanted to write a book about
kundalini, -personal experiences- so he came to my home to interview me.
After an hour or so, we were not able to think clearly anymore, after two
hours he had to leave ..too much energy! (and no, the book is not finished
yet :))
I also have phone-contact with someone who is radiating very strong shakti.
After our first phonecall I was not able to sleep because of all the energy,
now -after seven years- we can speak through the phone for some hours,
but I become very energized, so we never met until now, because I could only
be in his environment for a quarter or half an hour or so.
<snip>
My own experiences make me curious how others deal with this and
if it IS possible to live with and to be in the same house with an awakened
partner or other relative?
*******
Hehe. There are no problems in a relationship (from my point of view).
There's only interaction. I... let it go. I send her to England every couple
of years to figure out why and how much she loves me, and it gives me a
couple months to do intense work - which I'm just coming out of. Just like
any other relationship, I don't know from day to day whether it's a great day
or a lousy day, but just deal with the lesson in front of me. Open heart,
open mind, y'know...
*******
K awakening is not the problem or the cause of problems in my relationships.
The strong flow of shakti can cause problems for others cause it starts
clearing their emotional bodies and I think they might think I am the cause
of it. People get "activated" around me and begin looking at areas of their
life they have not looked at before. Sometimes I get caught in the crossfire.
I am not married or in a serious relationship. The love relationships I have
are with awakened men. Being awakened doesn't mean you don't have problems in
relationships, maybe just a different set of problems.
*********
Thinking I would save them. And then get frustrated when they would't
take any steps to solve their issues that they were confiding me.
********
Here's the good news, I have stopped drinking, have surrendered
to the K process and given all my problems to the Divine.
I am still alone, but that's alright! The isolation and solitude
is what I need right now.
*********
I think it's very important to discern when to share the information
and when not to. If it makes other people uncomfortable then I
prefer to keep it to myself, that way I don't open myself up to
comments from people who just aren't there yet.
**********
Trying to explain, even showing them info. about the process....
but at the end it seems useless.... and sometimes it seems easier..
END
Thanks everyone!
Love, Hillary
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Question
1. Has K awakening affected your close relationships?
2. How have they reacted to your awakening?
Positively?
Negatively?
Neutrally?
3. How have you responded?
4. Did you end up solving the problems that K awakening made in your
relationships, and if so, how did you do this?
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