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Subject: Re: [K-list] Love Mates was #930 digest
From: Magdalene Meretrix

At 09:09 PM 3/27/02 -0800, Silverstar wrote:
> P.S. from Sue............."The love and the wholeness we keep looking for
in the 'perfect partner' is really a search for that wholeness in
ourselves. There's a story in Plato about how men and women were created:
how at one time human beings were spherical in shape and were both male and
female at the same time and were extremely powerful; and how the gods were
very fearful of the power of the humans so they devised a way to split
humans into male and female beings who then spent all their time and energy
running around looking for their other half so that they could return to
wholeness. "

That's the original source for the "twin flames" soulmate theory (according
to the theory, we have karmic, dharmic and twin flame soulmates. The twin
flame is exceedingly rare to find; they usually pop up in the first split
lifetime and then not again until the last incarnation.)

My current partnership is with a karmic soulmate and I think a good portion
of my early disappointment came from wishing he were my dharmic soulmate or
my twin flame and feeling disappointed because I didn't have the kind of
relationship I wanted and didn't want the kind of relationship I needed
(the relationship I have is *exactly* what I needed.)

(for more information about the karmic, dharmic and twin flame forms of
soulmates, check out this essay:
http://www.smrrf.org/#SOULMATES INTRODUCTION )

Your partner may be one of your karmic soulmates as well, which would
explain the pain you experience in relating with/not relating with him.

It's a cold comfort, I suppose, but at least there's the thought that the
relationship is providing for your personal growth.

I had a brief (eight months) relationship with a farmer, but he was a very
different sort of farmer, I suppose. Not a church-goer, neo-pagan, organic
farmer. He worked very long, very hard hours and was deeply in love with
his land but he was also deeply in love with his three children and very
much a "people person." That relationship ended because I wasn't ready or
willing to be a ready-made mother to three children.

It sounds like you have a difficult relationship but one not worth giving
up on, at least not at this point in time. I'm sure it's a bit alienating
to live such a complex life, though. I'd wager that most people don't
understand why you stay in the relationship, but I think I can relate.

And you are right about finding wholeness within! Whether we never run
across a soulmate or end up meeting five soulmates (yes, a person can have
more than one) in the course of a lifetime, the truest, hardest, sweetest
task is to be our own soulmate and perfect lover.

Love,
Magdalene

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