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Recieved: 2002/01/22 00:29
Subject: Re: [K-list] Re: to "help" or not to "help"
From: Keith Chapman
On 2002/01/22 00:29, Keith Chapman posted thus to the K-list:
Susan,
So much wisdom in your words, so much help, so much to learn... it just
makes me want to cry... Thank you so so much.
Keith
--- lionessbleu1 <divine_goddessATnospamhotmail.com> wrote:
> Dear Elizabeth,
>
> You have hit the nail on the head exactly with this paragraph.
>
> --- In Kundalini-GatewayATnospamy..., "mediaone" <wilshayesATnospamm...> wrote:
> >
> > It also makes me think about the whole issue and nature of "helping"
> and> reminds me of something I read in one of Mystress Angelique's other
> sites> about how even the act of offering love and healing to others can
> be> disrespectful because it presumes that the other is "less than" and
> "in> need" instead of seeing them as already whole and perfect and not
> needing to> change them.
>
> There is such ego and presumption in offerring healing and love. It can
> be a real slap in the face to the person being asked if they want help.
> How dare we presume these people are in a lesser place than we are in?
> We do not know their story. And you are right, they are already whole,
> perfect, and complete. How can we fix something that is already perfect?
>
> One of my favorite sayings is, "The helping hand strikes again!" The
> only person who needs to change is the person who wants to do the
> changing. One of my hardest life lessons learned was not to interfere in
> any body's journey. I had to learn there must be mutual consent to
> create intention for healing. Anything else is a violation of free will.
> This can be one of the hardest concepts for any healer to learn.
>
> I *rarely* offer my healing services to anyone. This is not to say I
> don't advertise but I don't go up asking people..."well, I was looking
> at your aura, or listening to your speech, or watching your attitude and
> I think you could use some help and healing in ....so on and so on...."
>
> To bring it down into real life terms it is like going up to someone and
> saying, "I was just noticing. You look like you are 40 pounds over
> weight and I have something here that will help you look like a
> desireable human being again." My response is and would be, "Fuck you
> and the horse you rode in on!" There is no difference in my book in any
> of these offers...the energy behind the words is the same. *You are less
> than but I can help you be more than with my wisdom and knowledge.* How
> patronizing.
>
> That is why it is so important for healers to develop the faculty of
> discernment. There are many important lessons for healers to learn.In my
> opinion one of the most important is my client is god/dess and I am the
> servant. God/dess is already perfect so what can I do to improve upon
> perfection? That is why I wait until I am approached.
>
> As a healer we must always examine why we serve and heal;what is our
> hidden agenda.
>
> When we see people suffer does it make us suffer and we want to heal the
> sufferring to make ourselves feel better? And if the client gets better
> how much the better but we have only relieved our own anxieties and
> feeling good around our own sufferrings.
>
> I worked with someone spontaneously last week. During a conversation, he
> asked me, "Touch my heart and help me." It was a great session which was
> initiated by him.
>
> I think if we are to be great healers we are to be great healers and
> lovers of our own self first. We first love god with all our hearts, our
> souls, and our mind. Then we love our neighbors. If I can't love
> god/dess Self purely... anything I offer to someone outside myself is a
> counterfeit of what is Real.
>
> Keith is heading down the right path. He has a natural exuberance which
> is charming. :) And we learn by asking questions.
>
> Just speaking from my own experiences.
>
> Lovely blessings,
> Susan
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