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Recieved: 2001/11/29 09:00
Subject: [K-list] Love, soulmates etc
From: siska
On 2001/11/29 09:00, siska posted thus to the K-list:
Sorry this is so late, but thank you very much to Hillary, Nick, Josh and John for your replies to me on love/soulmates etc. Much food for thought there. I've got some thoughts in response.
Hmm twinsouls.... don't know much about them but have read a bit. The thing is there seem to be various different theories on soulmates - in the end one (I at least) can only go on one's own experience - I think it really is different for everyone perhaps.
I read somewhere that we're like leaves on a tree - the ones on your branch, and your twig in particular are your soulmate so to speak, and I really like this idea. I've been lucky enough (though it doesn't always feel like it's lucky) to meet quite a few people I've connected with strongly on a soul level - and a crude assessment to categorise them is as follows.
1) Soulmates as friends/companions - these are mainly women but a couple of men too. Gosh they're nice - no conflict, just mutual support. Some just for a brief period of crisis when they appear from nowhere and then disappear just as fast or recede into the background - and other are truly companions on the path to share and compare with etc. And it's funny but a couple are people I've known for a long time and not been aware of a spiritual connection as such - they suddenly they activate and come very close while we're on a parallel track of experiences for a while. There are always plenty of synchronicities involved with this people, and at times they link up with each other as well as me...
2) 'Enemies' - by which I mean people you're not friends with, but with whom you get drawn into conflict situations. I've learnt these reflect inner conflicts, or unrealised conflicts with important others, so I suppose these are equally spiritual connections even though they feel quite the opposite.
3) Sexual relationships. Arggh!!! These seems to be a mixture of things. Certainly conflict raising as above - but also bringing out positive unrealised aspects of oneself. Bit of a heady mix. Always a certain degree of spiritual connection. But my experience has been that through these and the resulting pain, very essential work on self-healing/development is done - and for the other too. In my case they truly are catalysts - and they last just as long as is necessary for the 'transfer' to be done.
..... so we find ourselves through a number of opp sex relationships - that's why I found anyway.... BUT....
there was ONE REAL HUMDINGER!!
4) My Twin Soul. Twin or flame - no more like flame - cos our coming together really did ignite enormous stuff for both of us. But it wasn't meant to be forever - we both knew that, in fact we'd have destroyed each other if we'd tried to make it happen. It was two months of unbelievable love/spiritual connection principally - after it ended I was overcome with grief and plunged into year long depressive breakdown. And when I got better - this big hole of pain and emptiness and loneliness I'd always carried around inside me had magically healed. Incredible. And similar thing happened for him. So somehow through each other we did some kind of miraculous energy transfer. Somehow it dug right down to the deepest inner recesses of pain and emptiness - dug it out and filled the gap with love and light and happiness, and damn nearly killed me in the process. But worth it my goodness!!! There were loads of synchronicites, prophetic dreams, mythological parallels - even balcony scenes. It was very very strange and profound and I'll never again experience anything like it - becuase I don''t need to. No need to carry on looking when you have already found, and not lost but rather assimilated.
5) Companion Soul. Hhhmm I read somewhere there are two big soul mates - the twin flame and the companion soul and this rings true to me, having met the flame - and now feeling would like to meet the companion. Becuase I love myself pretty fully now and know who I am etc. there feels no need to find these things through another - so it's more a case of - well yes compansionship - ie. the more practical realities on which a good relationship is based seem the most important things now - sharing interests, values, aims, community etc. SHARING is the key word - not interested in big grand passion any more. No longer any need or desire. That's why I though it was Pick and Mix man - cos we share these things. But hey ho time will tell.
Hillary - is there a poll to be done on this subject maybe???
siska.
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