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Recieved: 2001/08/24 05:27
Subject: [K-list] False Teacher
From: Cleocatras
On 2001/08/24 05:27, Cleocatras posted thus to the K-list:
Dear Shahadda,
You have described a classic personality to the well known
Victim-Rescuer-Abuser Cycle which you can learn more about at any of the
domestic violence program therapies.
This cycle is an intense up and down roller coaster ride, the dynamics of
control and co-dependance.
The dynamic is to systematically isolate the subject person, and break down
their self esteem until they have no where but the abuser to turn to. At this
point the abuser puts you on an emotional string and treats you like a yo-yo,
and you go on an intense roller coaster ride designed to make you totally
dependant on the abuser so you can be mistreated. The positives only last
long enough to hook you in, and then it is downhill after that. When you
finally get the guts to pull out, he makes it all beautiful again, but just
long enough to hook you in again.
The only energy that goes on is the round and round of that cycle, and to the
point where you will be brainwashed and conditioned to not recognize it, and
totally disabled. That way, if he punches you in the face, he can get away
with it because you have abandoned all other support systems. And believe me,
that is the first part of the dynamic he will work on, to discourage you from
having anyone else to go to but him.
The entire cycle has it built in endorphine rushes, that is what causes it to
be so addictive. It creates a chemical addiction within the body and these
dynamics are usually on a 5 to 10 day cycle. As soon as it is peaceful
between you two, he will stir it up again. There will never be a time that
you "arrive" at a place where the relationship is healthy and nurturing,
instead he will arrange it so you will be always struggling and striving to
attain that position with him, almost arriving there and then the
rollercoaster will go on the downside again, so you have to start it all over
again. Just know he has no intention for a normal relationship to exist. He
holds out a very big carrot which looks extremely appealing, yet never
delivers. That is the whole idea, for you to be continually striving at his
whim, like a puppet on a string. Reprimanding you on things that do not even
seem real, convincing you how they are real and then setting you off center
trying to make you conform to the unreal.
He systematically isolates you from your emotional and financial support
systems to the degree that you will have no place and no one to turn to. He
systematically picks on your lessor attributes until you are continually
questioning yourself and who you are. He systematically blames you for
anything he does wrong, somehow you are the cause. He systematically strips
you of your energy until you feel you cannot leave. He systematically twists
what happens with you until reality becomes so foggy you cannot even trust
your own eyes and ears and experiences. Then the real abuse begins.
Do you want to stick around and see it happen?
I am sure our resident psychologist is also familiar with this
victim-abuser-rescuer cycle which epitomizes the domestic violence dynamic.
Just realize, you are being conditioned to become addicted to a cyclic
existence of never attaining anything but a roller coaster ride. What makes
it so appealing is that it engages your endorphines, feeds you the highest
highs, like a drug and then sends you crashing down in disappointment. He
will tell you everything you ever wanted to hear, to give you that rush, and
then find an excuse why he does not have to deliver, something your fault.
This will be never ending and your body will become addicted to that rush
that comes at the high highs and the low lows, until there is violence.
Namaste,
Cat
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