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Recieved: 2001/08/03 05:26
Subject: [K-list] Re: oh my oh poor Catlin
From: Nina
On 2001/08/03 05:26, Nina posted thus to the K-list:
Hi Cat,
Your approach to parenting sounds perfectly reasonable.
I am recalling Mystress Angelique's posting of the story of the
farmer who, in response to the villagers' cries of "Oh, what horrible
fortune!" would state: "Maybe so, maybe not..."
It seems that in all these "horrible fortunes", Catlin also has the
potential to learn valuable understandings (of his very own! hehe).
It's a grand experiment, and he's the mad scientist. /grin/ Oh, and
yes, you get to be Frankenstein... the Frankenstein that says: "Now,
what would happen if you stitched that forearm to the top of my
head?" Well, the projected answers to that are plentiful:
1. My brain would begin to think it was a humerus... and I would
either develop a very good sense of humor, or become a bonehead.
2. I've always said I needed another hand! Now I have one... good
thing, too... it's a great place to carry my external brainpack, er,
daytimer. Plus, now I can reach all those high shelves in the
kitchen...
3. (And so on...)
Is Catlin able to figure out on his own "what might happen"?
Are you able to think of just as many examples of times when you
warned Catlin about something that didn't "come true"?
Gently: could it be that the crediting of your warning thoughts with
manifestations in his life is more questionable than looking at your
warning thoughts as simply pointing out the possibilities for him to
do with as he sees "fit"?
Hey, btw, to lay my connection with this bare: I grew up in a
household of very astute negative projectors. Given any situation, my
family could give you at least one possible negative outcome. For
instance: going out at night with friends. This scenario brought to
mind all sorts of horrors for my parents: drinking, drugging, driving
dangerously, having sex, getting pregnant, getting murdered, etc.
Well, that was way to much hassle for me to deal with... all that
torture of what trouble I might get myself into. So, instead of
asking to go out, I snuck out... chronically... every single Saturday
night for a year straight. Left through my window at 10pm sharp and
returned sometimes as late as 6 in the morning... just in time to
shower and go to church. (hehe!) I drank, I drugged, I had sex. Never
got pregnant. Never drove dangerously. Never was murdered. (And my
own "negative projection"... that I would get caught... never
happened, either.) Had a great time. Learned some very valuable
things in the process...
Your phrase "not thinking" is a curious hook for me. I realize Catlin
is somehow "challenged"... but that "not thinking" thought is
possibly the critical "sharpness". Perhaps this is the root of the
negativity? Perhaps by thinking that Catlin does not think, there is
a scenario set up in which it is difficult to recognize that Catlin
does think? Just a thought... take it or leave it...
Hehe... my parents also used that phrase on me. Hurts worse than
having a bicycle broken, if you know what I mean.
Naja, just contemplations... good luck, Cat...
Nina
--- In Kundalini-GatewayATnospamy..., CLEOCATRAsATnospama... wrote:
> WELL... I think I need some insight here...
>
> Mystress Angelique used to tell me in our discussions not to give
thought to
> the potential of negative events or they might manifest themselves
and really
> happen.
>
> Well, at first I thought it was my son and his not thinking, but
now it could
> be just what she said...
>
> Part of my explaining and parenting involves telling Catlin "what
could
> happen", for instance, what could happen if he leaves something
laying in the
> driveway behind my van, "It could get run over and broken", "the
flashlight
> could get lost if you dont put it away" "someone could steal your
identity if
> you fill out forms on the net"... things like that...
>
> WELL< the rate of probability of me being right, should not be
nearly 100%...
> poor kid, it is going to make him paranoid... errr, at least he has
some
> proof that his mother is almost always right about her warnings....
>
> But, God/dess, give the kid a break!!
> And maybe I need to use a different approach?
> Anyone have any ideas?
> (My son is disabled and needs repeated reminders.)
>
> ohhh, and by the way, all of the above examples did happen.
>
> Cat
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