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Recieved: 2001/01/03 11:49
Subject: [K-list] Dear Chris...
From: Cleocatras
On 2001/01/03 11:49, Cleocatras posted thus to the K-list:
Dear Chris,
I would also like to partake in neutralizing your false assumption by listing
a few examples...
I have been proposed to 39 times altogether, I accepted engagement 12 times
and called off 9 and actually married three times. "So far, each of my
vehicles have lasted a longer duration than my marriages, since I fix them
myself." Read that statement either way it could be read, and it still says
it all...
AS carefully as I thought I chose, I even have a pair of pantyhose that
lasted longer... and the Legg's Sheer Energy Corporate Marketing Department
had a blast interviewing me one afternoon, after a home telephone survey
discovered me!!! he he he
<<
It was not until I got pissed off with "romance" and gave up on "falling
in love" altogether, and focused on loving myself, first, on *becoming* the
man of my dreams, becoming my own "Prince Charming", .. that I really
learned about what true love is. That was the choice that led to me
integrating my male side and discovering my true sexual orientation,
bisexual Dominant sadist.. finding wholeness within.
>>
I too, went through this process. It was easier to learn how to fix cars,
work on my house myself, become a Dominant who fought for her own ground,
than to deal with the roller coaster ride of this PATRIARCHAL MEDIA-DRIVEN
DEVICE called western culture romance. It sells lots of tickets, but no one
stays in the theater forever.
My last husband thought he was getting back at me and torturing me those 4
years that he didnt touch me, and he stayed until the week it kind of slipped
out that I was "in love" with my vibrator and didnt have a use for his wee
wee stick anyway, as "I have no use for something that doesnt make itself
useful".
I believe you should be making your choice based on the same method you might
choose a compatable roommate, and call each other "companion" instead of
mate. Maybe partner, instead of lover, too, and you have a middle option of
undoing the piece of paper marriage, but remaining as roommates (to see, or)
until you have the love that makes the paper valid.
IF you have not "consumated" the legal paper of marriage, it is not a valid
document anyway, in most cultures...
At any rate, there is not a deadline for you to make any decision. You can
choose not to choose. In my case, only my friends who are people who care
about me are allowed to make decisions on my behalf, and they usually make
better ones than I do in the love arena.
I think I said it all quite nicely recently, when someone jerked those
heartstrings not too long ago... I said...
"I realize I am only "in love" with who I think you might be, and I just
filled in all the voids with my own wishing -- those wonderful things that I
always dream about ... and if I go ahead and try to live with you, I know it
will spoil the best part."
some of my others...
Preconceived notions can be your worst demise.
Finding a lover is like bass fishing in almost every respect...(I could list
the details, but its too much satire for this list)
A blank slate of expectations means nothing to erase.
If wishes were horses, all beggars would ride...
finally, I gave up the saddle sores for hearty soles.
Blessings,
MsCat
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