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Recieved: 2000/11/13 13:32
Subject: Re: [K-list] re: My Daughter (Wendy)
From: Wendy Wade
On 2000/11/13 13:32, Wendy Wade posted thus to the K-list:
----- Original Message -----
From: "Christopher Wynter" <anundaATnospamone.net.au>
To: <kundalini-gatewayATnospamegroups.com>
Sent: Monday, November 13, 2000 11:05
Subject: [K-list] re: My Daughter (Wendy)
> Dear Wendy ..
>
> You mightn't like what I have to say here, but that is OK. What I write
comes
> from many years working with children and my backgroung is Transpersonal
> psychotherapy .. and private research
>
> >I mentioned earlier that my 9 year old daughter astral travels and has
> >psychic dreams...
>
> So do all children .. the only difference is that she has told you and you
have
> heard her. There are a number of possible scenarios for what you have
> described .. and it is difficult to accurately make suggestions on what
you
> have written.
>
> What needs to be addressed here are what are the unconscious fears that
> you have concerning what is happening to her .. because what you write
> suggests there is more going on within you .. and the children are very
great
> mirrors of the unconscious patterns of their parents.
I read through your response to my posting and don't know why I wouldn't
want to hear what you have to say - I am asking for your wisdom.
My daughter is adopted. So I am not sure if all you have said applies but
acting purely from the aspect that she is my daughter I will try to answer
your queries as honestly as I know.
My concern is (and I admit that this is my stuff) that first, her physical
problems be addressed and second, that I not fall into a process that
squashes in any way her natural wisdom. I realize we all come from wisdom
and it is that wisdom my wish is to return. I understand that she is my
teacher, as well. Is the lesson to back away from what I believe may be
causing her so much physical discomfort or emotional discomfort? I am not
being flippant, I am asking...
>
> The other thing .. what is her (and your) relationship with your mother ..
her
> grandmother ..
>
My mother passed away when she was 6. I am still discovering my own
relationship to her. Taylor didn't know a lot about her but it seemed that
the times we did share there was love (perhaps not total acceptance since I
adopted a biracial child and with my mother's own birth came a fear of other
races as well as her fear that I was asking for pain in my life by adopting
her).
> >About 2 years ago she was diagnosed with having complex partial seizure
> >disorder. I took her to the doctor after she would tell me how she
> >sometimes saw the trees "wiggle" and had many experiences of "seeing"
things
> >differently and hearing things like "the people start to speak in
different
> >languages" "they speak Chinese". She would see lights and was able to
> >describe them not just as lights but as patterns of light, she began to
> >develop a tick in her face that would start at the bottom of the left
side
> >of her face and then move up to the right side of her face. She was in a
> >very academic school and she began to fall behind because the teacher's
said
> >she would "space out" and miss things.
>
> Has she ever consumed any of the sugar reolacements .. Aspartane,
Nutrasweet,
> Diet soft drinks .. because these symptoms can reflect the use of these ..
> or did you use them or any other drugs whilst you were pregnant with her.
>
She has had sugar but not replacements (although she is not with me all the
time and I am not sure that she hasn't had it at someone elses home or at
school. Her birthmother states that she did not use drugs although I am not
sure about her diet soda consumption and cannot be totally sure that she did
not use other drugs. She did seem very healthy and had no history of drug
abuse.
> > I didn't know then where to turn - I
> >thought she may be having a spiritual awakening -
>
> All children are born spiritually awake .. most parents shut that down
because
> it is something that is not safe to talk about ,, and it goes against
> religion ..
>
> >yet didn't have the people
> >who might be able to help us so I turned to a neurologist who started
her on
> >medication. I have since taken her off that medication for a number of
> >reasons but mostly because I didn't think it did enough good to warrant
> >drugging my baby.
>
> Well, that's a good thing .. perhaps .. depending on a lot of other things
..
> Neurologists do not necessarily have all of the answers ..
>
> but, keeping her as "Your baby" will stop her development and keep her
> tied to you in a way that all she will be able to do is re-enact for you,
> all of your stuff.
Thank you. I know that this is something I need to keep in check. My
desire to protect her in areas I was not protected brings about a challenge
in my life in this area. Reminders to allow her to be are welcome.
> and will restrict her possibilities to develop her own individuality.
>
> >I belive she has special gifts and don't know what to do to foster these
> >giifts.
>
> Every child has .. the best thing you can do is allow her her own freedom
> of expression without making her an "odd ball" or different tp other
children.
>
I am sometimes fearful that if she tells other people about her experiences
(her father included) that he or someone will tell her there is something
wrong with her.
> Do not do anything. Whatever she has is her birthright. Anything you, or a
> teacher
> will do is corrupt what she has. Just allow her to speak of her
experiences
> and help her to be able to speak about them without making them an issue.
>
This morning, when she felt ill, I asked her to breath deeply - into her
tummy and to feel her feet on the earth - to imagine herself as a tree and
that the roots of the tree were stemming from her feet and holding her
firmly. Is this type of guidance or something that will help her or should
I just be here - open to her pain?
> What is she reflecting in you .. what happened when you were 8 or 9 years
of
> age .. many of the answers could be found here.
>
I have little memory of this time in my life. My biggest comforts I
remember were nature and animals. We are surrounded by both here.
> Also what happened to her when she was between 1 and 3 years of age ..
She was very shy and frightened of large spaces and people. She was very
uncomfortable with crowds. She moved through these years cautiously (it
seemed to me - since my older daughter jumped into any and all experience
with people).
> and what was happening to you when you were between 2,5 and 12 weeks
> pregnant with her ..
>
I cannot speak to this.
I have an appointment but would like to answer to the rest of your post when
I return.
Thank you for your questions and your time.
In peace,
wendy
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