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Recieved: 2000/01/25 17:41
Subject: Re: [K-list] weird relationships
From: Marion Hanvey
On 2000/01/25 17:41, Marion Hanvey posted thus to the K-list:
From: "Marion Hanvey" <loulou_3ATnospamhotmail.com>
Dear Nancy,
No, I think it's just life's a bitch and there you go.
Personally I've been interested in men (who have not been conventionally
handsome), but something? has attracted me to them.
And since I'm not a pushy person (unlike many of my friends!) I have never
made the first move, but these men have always wanted to be my friend.
Kindred spirits? One really, really nice man, Edmond, a Chinese artist who I
felt an instant connection with, who taught me so -called secret chi gung
exercises, (which I've never done by the way, I've got them written down on
a piece of paper somewhere) went off to Lockerbie to be a Buddhist monk!
Not to get away from me honest, I never put any pressure on anyone!
Lockerbie's in Scotland by the way. He came back to Manchester to sort some
of his affairs (not romantic) out after a month and he looked ten years
younger! It was amazing, everyone remarked on it. I might go there for a
month myself. Another man whom I had an instant and mutual rapport with,
had a shop in the Corn Exchange in Manchester(U.K.), and he used to give me
scarabs. (He sold Egyptian stuff) We were really friendly, and it was an
equal friendship, do you know what I mean? Perfectly balanced. Then what
happened? The IRA blew Manchester city centre up, and guess what was
decimated? Yup, the Corn Exchange. So, since my only contact with him was
via his shop, I never saw him for a year, then I heard he had a shop in
another building, went to see him, and he was really off-hand with me
because I hadn't been to see him before. How was I supposed to know where
he was, I'm not a mind-reader?
Conversely, I've had men, who while they might be attractive to some people
do nothing for me, chase me like crazy. And they can be very persistent you
know, and wear you down, and you end up going out with them. Then you have
a burden on your back and wake up vaguely depressed each day. I've just got
rid of one such now. Thank you God and hello freedom.
You say this man has an arranged marriage. Is he Asian? He must be scared
of his family, forget him he's a wimp. I mean who would marry a stranger?
You could end up with anybody. He probably does like you but is scared to go
against his culture. There's not a lot you can do if that's the case. But
you see what I mean? You're not alone. Personally I have a theory about
this. It might not be right but it's my theory. The ones that seemed to be
soul-mates had another path to tread. (Note the Buddhist monk who had to be
celibate.) Not sure about the Egyptian and what went wrong there, but maybe
the universe had other plans for him and for me. As for the besotted ones
who you don't really want, I've discovered that in my case at least, they
all have one thing in common - none of them are on the spiritual path.
Which makes life a bit difficult with them to say the least. Anyway, keep on
hanging in there, Mr. Right might be just around the corner. Don't settle
for Mr. Will do. I've tried it and it doesn't work, you just end up wanting
to shoot them.
Loulou
>From: nancy <nancyATnospamwtp.net>
>Reply-To: nancyATnospamwtp.net
>To: k-list <kundalini-gatewayATnospamonelist.com>
>Subject: [K-list] weird relationships
>Date: Mon, 24 Jan 2000 22:18:41 -0600
>
>From: nancy <nancyATnospamwtp.net>
>
>Hello everyone
>
>I'm not new to the list, but the neighborhood has changed so much that
>many of you won't recognize me. I've been lurking for a long time now.
>It seems like there hasn't been much to say.
>
>I forget who wrote the post about karate helping get one back into the
>physical world. I have had the same thing happen this past year, not
>through karate, but through physical activity. It's good to feel earthy
>instead of spacey!
>
>The reason for my post is that while everything seems to be flowing in
>my life, there's one area where I don't seem to make progress...romantic
>relationships. I do know that I am intentionally selective about
>prospective partners. I'm comfortable with myself and would prefer being
>alone rather than with someone incompatible. My main criteria is that I
>want someone with whom I can experience a soul connection.
>
>Everytime I meet someone who seems to be a potential match, things go
>weirdly wrong. For example, I met someone a while ago, and it seemed
>like things could progress. A mutual friend told me he was single and
>was interested in dating. This man and I would see each other several
>times a week in a shared activity, and soon we were regularly talking
>and sharing on a personal level. After two months of this, he told me
>last week that he was going to be getting married through an arranged
>marriage. (He's known about it the whole time I met him.) What the ???
>He never mentioned this when we'd sit around and talk for an hour. (And
>yes, I think he was clear about my interest. I did ask him out, and he
>said he couldn't go because of work but would like to go some other
>time.)
>
>I don't know how in the world I could have known he was engaged! Yet,
>this isn't the first time I have had an emotional/spiritual connection
>with someone that never moves into the physical world. What am I doing
>that prevents relationships from being physical too? Is there some vibe
>that I'm sending out that attracts this to me?
>
>As I said, pretty worldly stuff I'm dealing with these days!
>
>
>
>
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