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Recieved: 1999/11/23 13:51
Subject: Re: [K-list] Joking ? Was: Return of the dart board factor
From: Blackswan
On 1999/11/23 13:51, Blackswan posted thus to the K-list:
winter mute wrote:
> The group and tribe mentality in humans is very
> strong and may be the basis for value based
> -isms such as racism.
>
> Everywhere and at almost all times, humans
> identify themselves with other humans on the
> basis of different external or internal factors,
> such as "race", profession, culture, nationality, sport, hobby, family structure,
> religion etc etc.
>
> Humans identify with a tribe and want to run with it.
This also means that the PACE the tribe says is the pace to run at is the pace you too are
limited to running at if you choose to hang with the tribe. That applies psychologically,
culturally, and spiritually/energetically. If your tribe/group says it takes 40 years to forgive
that other country/tribe then that is what is so. The frequency of the tribe ends up playing
major roles in working through "karma." If you, however, choose to forgive in the moment. You
are ahead of your tribe but risk being outcast by your tribe for being out of sync with them.
You did not play by their rules.
Personal simple example: I dislocated my shoulder while working out. My communities (medical and
personal trainers) said 2 months to heal. I said, "no, I can do it much faster. I have access to
better resources through prayer to God -- Jehovah Rapha -- which means the God who heals. I have
a personal relationship with the Great Physician and that means I get to make requests." Two
weeks later I am 95% healed. This is simply taking a stand for what you believe, and when it
runs counter to the pack, I did not invalidate them for there was nothing personal going on
(they were just voicing the rules of the tribe that were totally reasonable form their
perspective), I just say that "something MORE is possible." You could call it personal
responsibility, or self-empowerment, but I think of it as simply being open to miracles both
large and small.
This is completely relevant to Kundalini because we literally energetically give out power to
the group belief system we let ourselves be plugged into with both its costs and its dividends.
If your tribe says to hate this other tribe, (it could be blacks against white or Red Sox
against White Sox teams or Pepsi over Coke or anything) then know that part of your energy
literally gets spent invalidating them. I learned all about this world trapped in categories of
"us" and "them" through the work of Carolyn Myss. You can get all the details on tribe related
to healing at:
http://www.library.ontariowellness.net/Buy%20Things/Books/Featured%20Authors/featured.htm
Carolyn Myss goes so far as to say that we were all DESIGNED to grow up in tribes that did not
fit us precisely for the opportunity to outgrow them and get to experience ourselves as freely
choosing selves rather than some energetic Borg collective. While the "break in belonging" was
experienced ontologically as very traumatic, it was intentional, inevitable, and really there
from love. It FELT cruel, but really is an opportunity to grow. It was there, according to her
interpretation, to let you choose. Not to simply react against your "home" tribe as invalid them
(thereby putting you simply into yet another tribe), but to take full responsibility for your
choices and then you can choose to operate at your highest level, taking on spheres of influence
much greater as a servant-leader than a tribesperson ever could. You get bumped up to the next
level with all its greater fears/concerns/issues/challenges as well as its fulfilling rewards.
The conclusions I came away with from Carolyn Myss' work are to be conscious of who/what/where I
am spending my energy. Am I investing it or losing it? Am I simply mirroring the beliefs of some
group that really does not serve me or holds me back from grateful love? These kinds of
awareness are growing in me, all through getting the distinction of how humans engage as
"tribes."
What I personally love about all of that is now 2 things are possible in life that were never
available before -- when you were in your tribe. When you were given by either being carried
away with or given by resisting your tribes -- for either way maintains tribal awareness at its
center. There 2 things are team and partnership. A tribesperson is just carried along by the
current -- he can never truly choose to BE in/on a team because he was inside of something
ontologically that did not let him choose NOT to be a part as well. Only a free person can
actually choose, all else is reactions and reasons which negate responsibility. The person who
(a) broke away form their pack, (b) goes through all the shit of the pain of not belonging and
transmutes that from bitterness into gratitude by personally receiving grace, (c) can now choose
what they are and are not apart of -- you get to say for yourself. That is incredibly freeing
(and confronting!). You're life is the way it is because of what you believed and said.
What does that open up? Now you can really love. That is, you love as a free choice -- you
consciously choose to BE love for others, instead of giving your power of choice about what you
can and cannot love to the rules of some tribe. So team and love is possible at a much higher
voltage so to speak. But so is partnership. Partnership, as I mean the word, is two or more
fully whole and complete people in intimacy sheerly by a love/faith/choice. They relate to each
other, not from their issues, fears, concerns, insecurities, but rather full and complete can
now dance together -- collaborate -- from what is possible (from inspiration made real) instead
of being merely traumatically bonded to commiserate (indulge in tribal complaints) or bogged
down in the rate or tribal healing/growth/development. There IS NOTHING to fix for nothing is
broken in the other person, nowhere to get to in order to be OK with life, no agendas, no
issues, no larger or smaller in partnership. Just life and freedom and gratitude and creativity
and play!
> There is nothing "wrong" in this.
> Humans are gregarious beings, in fact,
> there are indications that
> a human being that grows up without any
> contact with other humans does not develop
> the skills and traits we usually identify
> as "human".
>
> What is a problem is the other inherent
> impulse in humans to not only identify
> with a particular group of ppl, but
> to promote this group and its values,
> behavior and views as "better" and more
> "valuable" than those of other groups,
> very often another group which is easy to
> identify.
>
> . . . The wish for the "right" group to believe this is so strong, it usually immediately
> starts to
> promote it as a truth and taunt the other
> group for being of "less" value than itself.
>
> . . . Most often, the positive value judgments
> are given ourselves, our own values, our
> own behavior, belongings, friends and family
> and the negative judgments given to those
> belonging to others.
>
> The farther away from ourselves and our own
> views and possessions that we get, the
> harsher and stricter do the judgments usually
> become.
>
> It is no coincidence, it has been observed that
> the further away enemy
> soldiers are from each other, the more intense
> do they hate each other. Up close, it is too
> easy to see the likeness, common traits,
> weaknesses and strengths
> that all human beings share. . .
This "distance" making condemning appear more valid also applies to the relational distance of
phones and email. Even simply wearing glasses or being inside a car can put a conceptual
"something" between you and others such that you are less related and in their world. How many
times am I more demanding / impatient with someone over the phone than face to face? There is
less respect and the tendency to see someone simply as an OBJECT rather than a person is
greater. We can also "object-ify" people more easily through the distance of email. So, I get to
be reminded to mix sharp and ruthless insight with the clarity and wisdom of compassion because
that's how I'd want to be treated in kind.
blessings,
black swan
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